The rape culture of the 1980s, explained by Sixteen Candles

The fact that Christine Blasey and Julie Swetnick did not, at the time of their attacks, have available to them the concept of “date rape” to describe their experiences is an example of what the philosopher Miranda Fricker calls “hermeneutical injustice”: being deprived of the resources with which to interpret your experiences of harm both to yourself and to others because of a gap in the collective understanding. The introduction of concepts like date rape and acquaintance rape, street harassment, microaggressions, and even mansplaining are all instances of an amelioration of hermeneutical injustice.

liberalsarecool:

This is taken from the first page of ‘How To Be A Republican’. As the Kavanaugh hearings spotlight, the Right Wing is built on the unwavering defense of rape culture.

Explain to me how it is that men cannot control the actions of their favorite appendage yet they are permitted to control our government, our laws, our lives, our money, our reproductive rights and pretty much everything else in life.

feminismohoy:

its-okay-to-not-agree:

smalldarlinglesbian:

This is the single greatest twitter thread I have ever seen.

Men are 100 responsible for unwanted pregnancies.

All unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men.

Best thing I have ever had the pleasure to read about the abortion debate

That as a society,
we really don’t mind if women suffer, physically or mentally, as
long as it makes things easier for men.

I’m an expert at mediating conflict + grandmaster trying to ‘work through’ thor and loki’s issues

loxxxlay:

god I can’t believe the Grandmaster’s Solution™ to this particular issue is an actual Thing That Came Out Of My Brain. That scares the shit out of me. Shame: 500, Me: 2. (I put up a good fight lol)

Warning: both Dubcon and Noncon (instigated by the Grandmaster, and mutual on Thor&Loki’s part). Actual Incest. Some legit Mind Control goin’ on here. Grandthorki is not for the weak of heart… unless you’re like me and your weakness of heart is for da grandthorki lol 😉

Anyway thank you so much for the prompt, anon! 😀 ❤ Shoutout to @zombiecheetah for helping me brainstorm with the first scene!! <333 And shoutout to @veliseraptor whose fics&ideas are literally always bouncing around in my head and inspiring meee. Hope yall enjoy ^_^ (For mobile users, there is a read more cut that may or may not show up lol.)

Thor hated himself with the intensity of a million burning suns.

It wasn’t a new hatred. Even before Sakaar, what-if’s and if-only’s would fill barren nights to the brim. There were a thousand words he could’ve said the night Loki fell from the Bi-Frost (the night he let go), and when Loki came back, ghostly and hateful and raging, there were a thousand paths Thor could’ve taken. The words that were actually spoken, the paths that were actually taken—they’d been the wrong ones.

In the aftermath of hindsight, Thor had learned to stitch self-loathing into the fabric of his being. Only its intensity was changing now. Sakaar was strengthening it into something suffocating and raw, and it was killing him. It was bleeding the life out of him.

“Loki, please,” he said, resting his cheek upon smooth, unrelenting metal. “Please just open the door.”

There was no click of the lock or twist of the doorknob. No sound from within the bathroom at all.

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loxxxlay:

was tagged by both @aliceinthinkland and @veliseraptor (ahhhh thank you both *_* <3). I know i don’t do these anymore, but I guess the power of my vanity has beaten my anxiety for the moment lmao (in seriousness, I’m super insecure, so this is probably good for me anyway)

Hello, you have been identified as An Awesome Fic Writer™. Congrats, you rock! So that all of your readers can shower you with some extra love today, please tell us your favourite five stories of yours and why you like them and then send this to another five fic authors you think deserve this title!

A Moment of Peace

A huge flaw in my writing is that I suck at grounding the reader in the scene. So literally when I wrote this, my #1 goal was to engage the five senses (via Thor whump lol) and really practice that description. ~~(Please don’t reread the first chapter now bc you can literally see me ticking the 5 senses off, one by one lmao.)~~ Even in later chapters, I wrote things massively out of my comfort zone (i.e. fight scenes ew, dialog between more than 2 characters ewwww), and it was really hard, but I think it came out well. And overall, I’m just really happy with my speculation for IW 🙂 Sorry to brag, but even my insecure self can say I like Loki better in this than the canon Loki we got. ~~esp in the chapter I’m writing now~~ :’)

Brothers of Habit

the accumulation of my favorite favorite favorite things ever, including (but not limited to) trauma-bonding/shared trauma, complicated consent, thor whump, loki whump, brotherly angst and comfort, noncon, and noncon recovery. It was one of those fics where The Words randomly appeared at 3am, waking me up and forcing themselves on my crappy phone keyboard in pitch darkness, which, as most authors know, is super fun. (: And I’m just really proud of how the concept (“Thor and Loki have fucked so much that now they can’t stop???”) actually turned out rather…. believably? And not like a crack!fic??? Am both proud and relieved. XD Also I’m happy with the prose itself 😀

Tempting Death

obviously this was written like 5 billion years ago, so I hope I can write a little better now, but for that time of my life, it was probably the best writing I was capable of and I’m really proud of it even to this day. Writing about psychological brainwashing on a character post-suicide-attempt is exactly as fun as it sounds (assuming ur like me lmao)

The Little Things

ahh different fandom (and seriously if u like Loki at all for the same reasons that I like Loki, I highly recommend the manga TRC ok), but I am so happy with this fic. o.o One of my biggest irritations about the manga was how Fai, after having an incredibly well done mental illness arc, was like… instantly cured at the end? So this fic was about showing the leftover difficulties in his recovery and how he has to continuously learn healthier and non-toxic coping mechanisms. Much slower recovery, never cured, and just an analysis of how his relationship with Kurogane is healthy&positive all around. I loved writing this ❤

One Last Breath

this one isn’t a fic, it’s an original short story I wrote about rape culture and, on recommendation from a professor, am thinking about trying to publish, idk, we’ll see. But I wrote it for one of my assignments last semester, and I just feel like it’s the highest quality of writing I am capable of at the moment, and I’m really proud of it. And if I ever become Not Depressed and magically publish it or (more likely) get rejected too many times, I’ll let anyone who wants to read it ^_^ ❤

Tagging (trying to go for people who actually have much more than 5 fics lol or weren’t already tagged): @raven-brings-light @dictionarywrites @zombiecheetah @iamanartichoke @philosopherking1887 @foundlingmother @thotki @pro-antagonist @gorgeousgalatea (and as always, only if you want to 🙂 )

Thanks so much for the tag! I’ll get to it… sometime. Maybe when I have furniture? I don’t know. Moving is weird purgatory. Anyway, I’m reblogging this to give your self-recs some more exposure 🙂

theflats:

“When I was doing my residency in New York, a patient came in 18 weeks pregnant and very, very sick. The only way to save her was to terminate the pregnancy. We were in a Catholic hospital … I vividly recall my director of obstetrics and the chairman arguing with the nuns. They said, “Well, the baby’s only 18 weeks, it’s going to die.” They felt very strongly that we could not do anything, but they would be okay with us transferring her to get care elsewhere. The director rode with the patient in the ambulance because he was afraid that she would have seizures. She was in her early 20s, and she already had a kid. That really got to me. How could we let this mom die and leave her child behind when we have the means to take care of her? I said to myself: “I never want my hands tied behind my back like that again.” I used to travel; these days I’m mostly in Georgia and I’m a backup physician in Alabama. In Alabama, my patients tend to be poor and young. The youngest was barely 12. She went to play with a classmate, and there were older boys over … When her guardians brought her in, I was reluctant to take care of her in an outpatient setting because we couldn’t sedate her. I went to the local hospital and said, “She’s just a baby. She’s suffered enough. Please, can we put her to sleep.” Everybody was onboard. Things have changed so much I don’t know if I would be able to get away with that now. The most frustrating thing for me, especially in the Southeast, is seeing so many women who are not empowered to take care of themselves. Especially women of color. You hear things like “I was told I’m too young for an IUD” when we know that’s not true. They need to know what their options are. I’m Haitian-American, and the part of me that is extremely cynical wants to say, Well, it’s because these are black women. But I really think it’s a matter of poverty. It just so happens that the face of poverty may be black. A few weeks ago, a woman came in for a medical abortion. As she was about to take the pill, she asked, “Do you think God hates me?” And I said, “No, he doesn’t hate you.” She said to me: “I tried so hard not to get pregnant. I told my boyfriend to use a condom, but he refused and forced himself on me.” If you overturn Roe v. Wade, what’s going to happen is we’ll go back to the way it was before. Every state for themselves. And best believe that the conservative states are going to try to outdo each other. Poor women will suffer. Poor women will die. There’s a generation of abortion providers who are more willing to be vocal about the impact of these different legislative measures. I tell my learners, “I don’t expect you to provide abortion care, but I want you to support your co-worker if they say, ‘Hey, we need a piece of legislation.’ I want you to stand behind us. But most importantly, I want you to be able to counsel and educate your patient in a way that respects her decision.” If I can train 500 providers who are compassionate and willing to respect and help their patients, I’ve done my job.”

— Anonymous, OB/GYN and a former fellow with Physicians for Reproductive Health, What Abortion in America Looks Like Right Now (via quigonejinn)

She Told a Guy She Worked at an Abortion Clinic. On Their Next Date, He Raped Her.

kiwianaroha:

davestrideer:

shitantichoiceprotesterssay:

I know Calla.

This is disgusting and heartbreaking.

pro life ppl: we wanna protect lives
also pro life ppl: let’s rape and ruin a woman’s life just bc of her profession

Within weeks, though, Hales began to see her attacker’s face in the crowd of protesters outside the Raleigh clinic. At first, she thought she was being paranoid. But then, she says, the protesters began to yell things they hadn’t yelled before, echoing words said to her during the assault.

“The protesters outside started calling me a jezebel a lot more,” Hales said. “And I got letters in the mail saying that I deserved it.”

They also said things they could have known only from talking to her attacker or seeing her rape kit. Hales has a tattoo of a serotonin molecule on her left rib and one day, a protester asked what molecule her tattoo was of.

Hales received a barrage of anonymous text messages, phone calls, and voicemails. She’d pick up the phone and hear someone breathing heavily. She’d get voicemails that said, “Do you remember it?” Some days, she received hundreds of blank text messages. One night while at dinner with friends, she got a text from an unknown number that said, “That shirt looks pretty on you.”

This wasn’t a “lone wolf” – this was a fully accepted member of the local “pro-life” community and instead of being horrified or disgusted by his actions they cheered him on and celebrated what he did.

Let that sink in: these “protesters” are supporting this rapist. They know the graphic details of the rape and they are giddy about being able to traumatize her further through stalking and harassment.

Well, misogyny is the driving force behind the “pro-life” movement. And to anyone who wants to say “but a lot of women are pro-life”—so? Systemic misogyny involves a contrast between “bad” women and “good” women, and the “good” women are the ones who buy into the system and help enforce the sanctions it imposes on “bad” women. Women slut-shame other women; women perpetuate the fetishization and essentialization of motherhood and shame other women for failing to live up to its impossible standards. Women can absolutely be misogynistic and suffer no cognitive dissonance because they assume that they are among “the good ones,” the ones rewarded by the system, and it is only the bad women who step out of their place whom they despise.

She Told a Guy She Worked at an Abortion Clinic. On Their Next Date, He Raped Her.

consider this……….Thanos/Loki………….

I cannot imagine a universe in which that is consensual. Frostmaster (Grandmaster/Loki) is basically a sugar daddy/baby situation; it’s not a healthy or egalitarian relationship, Loki’s consent is flawed/compromised by his vulnerable position, but it can still be called consent. I can’t imagine Loki consenting to sex with Thanos except under coercion severe enough to invalidate consent.

bernardbernieburns:

royalturkeyz:

fandomsandfeminism:

fandomsandfeminism:

Look, I dont know a lot about saints and Catholicism, but I know St. Agatha is always depicted with her breasts on a plate, and that’s sure something

Just a few more. This is a big trend.

Things I learned from the comments

She’s a patron saint of rape and abuse victims

She took a vow a chastity

A low born guy demanded her to be with him and she turned him down

For this she was imprisoned and tortured. This is how she lost her breasts (details not required)

She was repeatedly raped.

The Catholic Church regards her as a virgin for her peity despite the rape. (No matter your views on virginity this is a pretty interesting statement)

She was sentenced to death to burn at the stake but was saved by an earthquake

In her holiday people make titty cupcakes

I didn’t know she existed and now I think she’s a pretty rad woman. I would hesitate calling her a protofeminist as some often do with amazing women in history but she is pretty cool. Also she’s still very relevant today as women are still treated the way she was.

other things i learned: damn historic artists drew a woman with her own tits on a plate with Cleavage and prominent nip nops???

To be fair, it’s only the drawing 5th from the bottom that really has that problem. #7 also has too much cleavage. But the rest are pretty flat/well-draped.

Whoever is responsible for the bottom painting… too much detail. Just the plate is fine.

Hey, Catholic Church: you really have to be tortured to count as keeping your virginity if you were raped? Oh, wait. You probably just have to be a long-dead saint. If you’re a living woman, the presumption is always going to be that you did something to invite it.