wandamorgenstern:

repugaytions:

princessvexus:

yelnatszeroni:

hundondestiny:

yelnatszeroni:

Apparently it’s a new YouTube trend of tying up your girlfriend while you break her makeup?

What???

Heterosexual things: abusing your girlfriend and destroying expensive shit she owns

each day i somehow get more shocked by how truly unnerving heterosexuals are

I feel like you must really be stupid to not realize that both of these people in the videos have agreed and it’s literally just for views.

And you’d have to be fucking stupid to not understand that these thousands of pranking videos involve the same dumbass unfunny bullshit where it’s basically just “causing emotional distress to your significant is funny”. It doesn’t matter if this shit was planned for views, it’s stupid, unfunny, wasteful and it just adds to people being downright fucking cruel and passing it off as a prank.

It’s not just that, it strikes me as blatantly misogynistic. It’s supposed to be “funny” because of the stereotype that girls/women are vain and place too much importance, and spend too much money, on their appearance. Completely ignoring the fact that society also constantly sends women the message that all their value lies in their appearance, that attacking women’s appearance is always fair game as a replacement for criticizing their ideas or qualifications (see: all women in politics), that they will be punished for not meeting the absurd standards set for them in media and advertising.

paulatheprokaryote:

lenyberry:

yayfeminism:

Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?
Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.

So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.

This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.

And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).

https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript

Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.

martymartinloki:

writing-while-female:

damnsmartblueboxes:

teysaoforzhov:

writing-while-female:

damnsmartblueboxes:

writing-while-female:

Yes, a woman invented this genre, but we hate women so how can we discredit her and give a man the credit?

They did an entire set of episodes on Mary Shelly’s Frankenstein here’s the first one:

A valid complaint would be they haven’t covered a female author’s works since those episodes.

If you read what they said it basically boils down to

Mary Shelly = Creator of Sci Fi and the philosophy of the genre.

Jules Verne = Expanded upon Sci Fi to create the subgenre of Hard Sci Fi.

A subgenre which doesn’t focus on what could possibly happen but what could probably happen.

The Martian is Hard Sci Fi while say Superman is soft Sci Fi.

A link on the concept: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MohsScaleOfScienceFictionHardness

The point is, why do you have to do Mary Shelly down to big Jules Verne up?

You never see a tweet or headline saying “Jules Verne wrote his first book when he was 35, but Mary Shelly was half his age when she penned her masterpiece”

Men are almost never negatively compared to women.

Why is she even mentioned in a tweet about Jules Verne? And if she is mentioned, why negatively? “Well yes she did this, but he did better”? What is the point of that, unless it’s to take something away from Mary Shelly and give it to Jules Verne.

It’s not necessary and it’s sexist. The kind of sexism that pervades society but because we’re so used to women being put down, especially in relation to men, we hardly notice.

Shelly’s mentioned because they’re linking the first part of the series to the second part. It’s explaining the progression of the genre, not a value judgement.

^^^ This.

BTW that is the first episode in the SERIES so Mary Shelley is literally the first thing people watching have for context of the history of sci fi.

Then you say something like

“Mary Shelley invented Science Fiction, then Jules Verne took the next step.”

Or

“Mary Shelley used science as the basis of her story, while Jules Verne took a more rigid approach to scientific principles”

Or

“We began our series with Mary Shelley, now we’re moving onto her worthy successor, Jules Verne”

Trust me, there are 101 ways to write essentially the same thing without putting one author down.

Why is this so hard for people to understand?

Because as you said, it is what we are SO used to seeing/hearing/reading that we don’t really see it. And when we bring it up, those who haven’t been on the losing end of this type of speech don’t see the problem.

brendanthesalty:

mortisethetortise:

huilfbsdihfkjG THEY DISCOVERED AMELIA EARHART’S BONES ON INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY WHAT THE THIS IS A PERFECT COINCIDENCE

It’s kind of even better than that.

They actually didn’t find new bones. Rather, a forensic scientist re-examined measurements taken from bones found on Nikumamoru Island back in 1940. The bones were originally examined by some dude back in 1941 who unequivocally concluded they had to belong to a “short, stocky male” because there’s no way they could belong to some ~~fearless globe-trotting adventurer~~ delicate woman. Using new techniques to examine the measurements, the scientist has concluded with 99% certainly the Nikumamoru bones belonged to Eartheart.

So yeah, basically Earheart’s disappearance was only a “mystery” for like eighty years because of lowkey sexism and shitty science. And now we more or less know the truth. On International Women’s Day.

epoxyconfetti:

codex-fawkes:

unified-multiversal-theory:

stained-glass-rose:

hyggehaven:

profeminist:

Source

I want men to try and imagine going about your day–working, running, hiking, whatever–and not being allowed to wear pants under threats of violence or total social and economic exclusion.

That’s the kind of irrationally violent and controlling behaviour women have been up against.

Also for anyone who thinks it’s easy for women to be gender non conforming because we can wear pants.

The only reason we can is because we fought tooth and nail for the right to! Any rights we take for granted today we’re the result of a prolonged, bitter battle fought by our predecessors for every inch of territory gained. Never forget that.

Title IX (1972) declared that girls could not be required to wear skirts to school.

Women who were United States senators were not allowed to wear trousers on the Senate floor until 1993, after senators Barbara Mikulski and Carol Moseley Braun wore them in protest, which encouraged female staff members to do likewise.

This was never given to us. Women have had to fight just to be able to wear pants. Women who are still alive remember having to wear skirts to school, even in the dead of winter, when it was so cold that just having a layer of tights between them and the elements was downright dangerous. Women who remember not even being allowed to wear pants under their skirts, for no other reason than they were female.

So don’t talk about women wearing pants being gender nonconforming like it’s easy. It’s only less difficult now because your foremothers refused to comply.

My mother spent her entire school career up until high school having to wear skirts, no matter how horrible the New England winters got, because she was forbidden to do otherwise. There were times when the weather was bad where my grandmother kept her home rather than make her walk to and from the bus in a skirt.

They rebroadcast a few old interviews with Mary Tyler Moore, and in them she addressed the pants issue. There was a strict limit on what kind of pants she could wear (hence, always Capri pants, nothing masculine), and to use her words, how much cupping the pants could show. A censor would look at every outfit when she came out on stage, and if the pants cupped her buttocks too much, defining them rather than hiding them, then she had to get another pair.

theeforvendetta:

gehayi:

radgoblin:

rita-repulsar:

lord-kitschener:

swagintherain:

setup and
punchline

The artist is luo li rong

The statue doesn’t have big enough titties to have been made by a man.

I know I’ve reblogged this before but the schadenfreude is too delicious.

By the way, the statue is called

La mélodie oubliée (The Forgotten Melody). Luo Li Rong also painted it:

And here she and the statue are in a more formal setting (museum or art show, I can’t tell):

“Dork ass losers”

Lewis’s Law: Twitter Version

waddledab:

advanced-procrastination:

notemily:

(Lewis’s Law states that the comments on any article about feminism will justify the need for feminism.)

So today someone posts a thing about how it’s hard to talk to men about issues that affect primarily women.

And this dude responds saying he doesn’t think this is a real problem that women experience:

Apparently without irony. So of course he gets the response:

Not getting it:

STILL NOT GETTING IT:

Does he get it yet? Nope:

He goes through this ENTIRE EXCHANGE without realizing that he is demonstrating the exact issue being discussed. I’m still not sure he understands what’s going on, despite multiple people trying to explain it to him. It’s just… this is a work of art. It’s mansplaining all the way down.

Life imitates art

cephalopodvictorious:

emeritusprofessorofnothing:

benyw:

iloveradfems:

shopcatsca:

iloveradfems:

cecaeliawitch:

unapolpgeticalfeminist:

omg I’m doing research for one of projects for college, and apparently, girls learn better when they’re in an all girls class, but boys learn even worse when they’re in an all boys class, because all the negative things become even stronger of there are no girls to act as “buffer”

get rid of the boys and let girl learn in peace, i couldn’t care less about them

It’s not our job to be a “buffer”

Separate boys from girls then, they don’t have to be acting like mothers at age 12, if boys ruin the education of others boys, um, idk, fix their behavior maybe?

I work at uni. My program is very competitive. Like you need a 92% or more to get in. We get 10x the applications than we can accept. So. This means our program is 95% female. Simply because girls do better in highschool than boys. Its literally that simple. However. This is a HUGE deal in the administration! Because OMG all those poor boys with less than a 92% can’t get into our program and woe is me, those poor poor boys. Every year we meet to talk about ways to “rectify” this “problem”. One year they’re going to stop inviting me to these meetings. Because I always ask questions like “how do we get boys into the program with lower GPAs without denying girls with higher GPAs? And how is giving boys preferential treatment not sexist?” Keep going good ladies, I’m saving your seat!

This type of thing always happens when women are dominating something, protocols are changed to accommodate and benefit men, and if this strategy isn’t successful the field is devalued.

Keep the good work!

The amount of times I heard my grandfather talk about the ‘feminization’ of schools because he wanted to blame the system for boys under performing (or, more accurately: girls out performing the boys) instead of, ya know, boys’ entitled attitudes and overall piss poor behavior when at school.

When women fail at something: there must be something wrong with women
When women succeed at something: there must be something wrong with the system

I think I’ve talked about it before on other posts, but I once had an anthropology class that, completely unintentionally, was all women and one man, and he dropped the course after two weeks. The other section of the same anthropology class, taught by the same professor, was mixed with men and women. So, since it was anthropology, she asked if it was cool if she took notes. She said right away that the all female class had a wildly different vibe, that we spoke and acted differently and had different social expectations of her and the rest of the class, and that we let students complete their thoughts before disagreeing, while the mixed class was highly traditional and almost entirely male dominated because every time a woman spoke, a man jumped in halfway through to “correct” her by saying the same thing. Its a very small sample size, but I think about this a lot

When women fail at something: there must be something wrong with women
When women succeed at something: there must be something wrong with the system

^ As a woman in a male-dominated field that’s wrestling with the shortage of women… it really is a struggle to convince people that the gender imbalance shows that there’s something wrong with the way the discipline is conducted, rather than that women are just inherently worse at philosophy. But as soon as women start to outnumber men in university education as a whole, everyone starts wringing their hands about how K-12 education is “failing boys.” Fuck you, the entire world has been failing girls and women for millennia.

“why do fangirls always make them gay?”

pinknoonicorn:

roachpatrol:

redshoesnblueskies:

dirtydirtychai:

redshoesnblueskies:

goddammitstacey:

dsudis:

teland:

frankcoffee:

euclase2:

amberfeather:

euclase2:

Imagine being in a relationship in which you are treated like an equal, consciously and unconsciously, sexually, emotionally, socially, romantically, without being bound by gender expectations, without risk of pregnancy (or having your reproductive rights taken away from you), without feelings of inferiority, without being mistreated or neglected because men don’t understand your body and can’t be bothered to learn how to give you pleasure (or that you even deserve pleasure). Imagine having a reciprocating relationship with someone who knows how to touch you and how to talk to you, who will never abuse you or take away your consent. Imaging feeling powerful, safe, like the default rather than the specific or second-class. Imagine not requiring special handling by awkward, inconsiderate men who were never taught any better. Imagine being allowed to touch and enjoy and indulge without apprehension. Imagine being able to trust your partner. Imagine knowledge and understanding, someone who sees your depths and treats you the way you’d treat yourself if you hadn’t been told from birth that you weren’t worth it.

Girls aren’t “making them gay.”

Girls are fantasizing about being equal.

I have wondering about this in fandom for many years and reading this just made me tear up. I figured this was a big reason, but breaking it down to this extent made me so extremely sad. I realized a long time ago that even if I met the nicest guy in the world, I still have to battle all those things mentioned above. Just being friends is hard. I don’t have a happy history in this area like a lot of women and I have major trust issues with men and I wish somehow that wall could be broken down and we could all truly be seen as equal…as people with value. If you have all of the above with someone of the opposite sex then you are really lucky. See women are expected to give all those things listed above and settle for not getting them in return. I believe it’s a rare thing if you have it returned. Like I said, if I was with the nicest guy in the world I will always doubt myself, think he see’s me as different, talk to me different… Why? Because that’s our experience. This world raises us to believe we are worth absolutely nothing. The idea of being equal is one of our greatest fantasies.

It’s sad that it has to be a fantasy.

It’s totally sad.

But on the other hand, slash writers are some of the most empathetic people I know. And they’re great educators, too, probably in ways they might not expect. A good slash fanfiction writer can help women understand their desires and overcome some of those feelings of shame and worthlessness.

Think about how many girls have learned how to masturbate thanks to slash fanfiction.

Sometimes just knowing that we’re all reading and enjoying the stories is an immense comfort. People will tell you that slash is trash, that fangirls are desperate and pathetic, but ladies telling ladies that they’re allowed is a powerful thing.

Yeah, oh man. This is. Yeah, this is a lot. I especially feel the taboo surrounding female sexuality to the point that even though I’m Pretty Gay myself, I’m uncomfortable with my own sexuality (not as in orientation) and also dealing with the sexuality of other women. Like in some ways, I am always hesitant to appreciate sexiness in women because we are almost never shown female sexuality in a safe, respectful, and equal way and it still freaks me out.

I will never forget — and I wish so *badly* I still had a copy — the essay one of my exes wrote before she gafiated, in which she talked about how the act of writing slash and being part of the slash community in general had allowed her to “write herself back into her body”.

To, essentially, take off some of the blinders and filters western culture had put on her, all the things that had convinced her that, as an “overtall, fat, awkward, anxious, and altogether unattractive” person (she did have some anxiety issues, but none of the rest was true by any measure but all the lies we’ve ALL been told), she deserved neither happiness, nor romance, nor anything resembling sexual parity or satisfaction.

We met through fandom — she later told me she’d been quietly lurking on my mailing lists and around my websites for two years before she ever actually spoke to me — and we had four good years together before our relationship started to fall apart.

And, while not all of our happiness — together and separately — can be laid at the feet of the various slash goddesses, quite a lot of it can be.

Slash wrote *me* back into my body, too — several times, in several ways. Slash connected me to genders I never could’ve imagined, or could’ve imagined being *worth* connecting to in the days before I really understood the possibilities inherent to taking the media I had been given and *transforming* it.

We are *here*, and our pleasure is worth it — our pleasures, plural, are part and parcel of our identities.

And, you know, some of us, after we’ve been writing slash for a good, long while?

Find new ways to express those pleasures when women are there, new ways to understand those aspects of our sexualities — our *identities* — which include *hetero*sexuality.

It’s a journey. A process. A continuum. A spectrum. A *multiverse*.

Of *pleasure*.

And it’s all allowed.

Because we made it that way.

Because we *make* it that way.

Every day.

Oh, hey, Te, is that this essay, by any chance? http://jessica-ruth.diaryland.com/020301_62.html

Because I have been hanging on to that link for eleven years and still find cause to share it with people on a pretty regular basis.

Holy god, rEAD THE LINK

THE LINK IS BROKEN. DOES ANYONE HAVE THE ESSAY??? @DSUDIS

@redshoesnblueskies here: https://web.archive.org/web/20070218032122/http://jessica-ruth.diaryland.com/020301_62.html

AAAAAH! Thank you so much @dirtydirtychai !! It’s always a joy when someone’s writing about the psychology of fanfic gets back out into public circulation. We need these essays – they are part of our history and part of our validation.

Thank you 🙂

women deserve sexual pleasure. the fact that this is a controversial statement is at the heart of why slash is so popular with women AND why there’s no shortage of crusaders ready to explain (with horrible enthusiasm) that it ‘shouldn’t’ be.

Reblogging for the article link..I may not agree with all the comments in the thread but the article is sound and on point even 15 years later. Well thought through and incredibly articulate. I think in the light of all the shit finally being made public about sexual harassment it’s even more relevant. Slash is a safe place to explore without censure and you can stop when it becomes uncomfortable.

anexperimentallife:

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