The trouble with meeting people in real life rather than on a dating app is that when you ask them to go for coffee and they say yes, you don’t know if they’ve agreed to a friend date or a date date.
In my experience, lesbian dating is always like this.
It doesn’t help that I’ve never seriously attempted to date another woman before, so I have no idea what I’m doing.
Of course, if it had been a man that I invited for coffee, I might still have the same problem, because academic philosophy is so heavily male-dominated that of necessity most of my professional friends will be men. But straight women in philosophy also seem to date mostly within the profession, probably because they scare the crap out of other men.
Loki is the Philosopher King 