whyguy:

roachpatrol:

striders:

not to like make a huge fucking post about shit that’s been talked to death but it really genuinely scares me how many straight girls think it’s normal to just… not like your partner. like they think it’s normal and okay for their boyfriends to openly think they’re stupid and annoying and to be totally derisive about their interests and for them not to be friends or have things in common or enjoy each other’s personalities or encourage their interests? you are supposed to be friends with the person you’re in love with. you are supposed to want to talk to them about the things that make them happy. you do not have to settle for people who treat your entire personality as a burden outside of what you do to cater to them.

real talk basically every older lesbian i’ve ever spoken to has said that this is why it took them so long to figure out they were gay. they thought it was normal to just flat-out dislike being with their husbands. they thought that sex with men was supposed to be unpleasant, even painful and disgusting. they thought they were supposed to just put up with emotionally neglectful or even mentally/physically abusive relationships for years and years and years. they thought they were supposed to feel romantically (and sexually) unfulfilled, and trapped, and lonely, and turn to other women for comfort in the face of how unhappy their marriages were. 

because all their straight friends were, too. 

#YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LIKE YOUR PARTNER NATURALLY#LOVE IS NOT A CHORE #love is not an obligation #if you don’t like a man#don’t be with him #he doesn’t deserve you #get OUT