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mikkisaku:

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katya-zamolodchikova:

White and white passing women have learned how to weaponize victimhood and once you’re aware of that it’s so goddamn obvious

I think a lot of people understand this conceptually but IRL only see it as like ‘white woman saw a black guy and called the cops’ but it’s also ‘white/passing woman says something problematic then trots out the emotional pain of being accused once there are consequences’ and the ENTIRE schtick of ‘soccer mom type has been mildly inconvenienced (often bc of her own doing) in relation to a transaction and now she want ssomeone PUNISHED so she goes directly to the manager acting extremely put upon’

The key is that they center how shocked/uncomfortable/inconvenienced they are and exaggerate the pain and upset it causes them, then aims it at who they want punished.

I’ve experienced the really simple, petty shit too. When I worked at Lowe’s, a coworker made a joke and I laughed, noticed a customer in front of me and said “good evening”. Then I noticed she had some badass shoes and I told her I liked them. Mind you, I was still giggly from the joke, all this happened in like a minute or two. She immediately called a manager and claimed that I was making fun of her and demanded I be fired. I explained to my manager what happened and exactly what I said, and she threw a fit saying I was just trying to save my skin and that I shouldn’t be laughing while at work anyway.

So this gringa felt so hurt by the little brown woman enjoying her night at work and dishing out compliments that she had to go play the victim and demand I be fired. All because, what, I wasn’t miserable? I dared to look her way? Like yeah, they often weaponize victimhood in a way that ends up violent, but they also do it just to be petty. They ruin people’s lives sometimes just because they had a bad day. And all of that needs to be addressed. We see it every day.

YEP!

White fragility is handled with the same lashing out behavior but the women do it by trying to get you fired/arrested i.e. outsourcing the violence.

She had to feel an even slight moment’s discomfort because she’s petty and paranoid and literally wanted to take your daily bread for it. So uncouth. It’s honestly barbaric.

A key here though is that you’re separating petty and violent and I’m not. Because while her desire may have been petty, her goal was not: She wanted you fired. She wanted you starving. She wanted to take your livelihood because you made her feel a thing she didn’t like.

In 2018 that’s violent. People are out here starving and dying and not affording medical care and having to crowdfund groceries.

Trying to get someone fired on a whim is literally violent.

Some really thoughtful analysis. Worth a read for everyone.

And to my fellow white women, we need to understand this and take a stance if we see it; cruelty like this is not okay. Never be afraid to stop and help: to testify on behalf of the victim, interrupt the scene, or ask the victim if they’re OK afterwards and help reassure them.

Not sure what that means? Here are some examples:

• Someone trying to get a decent retail worker fired? “You’re the manager, right? I saw what happened. He was just doing his job. He wasn’t being rude.”
• A lady yelling at a cashier? “Excuse me, ma’am? You’re holding up the line.”
• A racist lady getting worked up? “He’s a black kid in a hoodie. Kids walk around the neighborhood all the time. I don’t think that’s suspicious. He could just be visiting a friend or enjoying the nice weather.”
• A retail worker didn’t behave perfectly and is at risk for getting fired? “Yeah, it was a mistake, but I don’t think she should lose her job for it. These things happen, and she apologized.”
• Someone mad at a group of teens speaking Spanish? “I doubt they were talking about you. When I’m with my friends, I’m usually talking about movies or boyfriends, not random ladies on the street. Why not let it go?”
• Someone getting defensive after being called out? “I’m not asking you to be a doormat. I’m asking you to be kind.”
• Someone looking rattled after verbal abuse? “Wow, I haven’t seen anyone go on a tirade like that in a long time. You okay?”
• Someone crying or looking scared afterwards? “Hey, you did just fine. That wasn’t your fault. She was probably just in a nasty mood. You did everything right.”

When you think something is wrong, say something. It’s a little risk that can make a huge difference for someone who needs it. You can be a voice of compassion. Now that you can envision it, I hope this will help you be it.