She Told a Guy She Worked at an Abortion Clinic. On Their Next Date, He Raped Her.

kiwianaroha:

davestrideer:

shitantichoiceprotesterssay:

I know Calla. 

This is disgusting and heartbreaking. 

pro life ppl: we wanna protect lives
also pro life ppl: let’s rape and ruin a woman’s life just bc of her profession

Within weeks, though, Hales began to see her attacker’s face in the crowd of protesters outside the Raleigh clinic. At first, she thought she was being paranoid. But then, she says, the protesters began to yell things they hadn’t yelled before, echoing words said to her during the assault.

“The protesters outside started calling me a jezebel a lot more,” Hales said. “And I got letters in the mail saying that I deserved it.”

They also said things they could have known only from talking to her attacker or seeing her rape kit. Hales has a tattoo of a serotonin molecule on her left rib and one day, a protester asked what molecule her tattoo was of.

Hales received a barrage of anonymous text messages, phone calls, and voicemails. She’d pick up the phone and hear someone breathing heavily. She’d get voicemails that said, “Do you remember it?” Some days, she received hundreds of blank text messages. One night while at dinner with friends, she got a text from an unknown number that said, “That shirt looks pretty on you.”

This wasn’t a “lone wolf” – this was a fully accepted member of the local “pro-life” community and instead of being horrified or disgusted by his actions they cheered him on and celebrated what he did. 

Let that sink in: these “protesters” are supporting this rapist. They know the graphic details of the rape and they are giddy about being able to traumatize her further through stalking and harassment.

Well, misogyny is the driving force behind the “pro-life” movement. And to anyone who wants to say “but a lot of women are pro-life”—so? Systemic misogyny involves a contrast between “bad” women and “good” women, and the “good” women are the ones who buy into the system and help enforce the sanctions it imposes on “bad” women. Women slut-shame other women; women perpetuate the fetishization and essentialization of motherhood and shame other women for failing to live up to its impossible standards. Women can absolutely be misogynistic and suffer no cognitive dissonance because they assume that they are among “the good ones,” the ones rewarded by the system, and it is only the bad women who step out of their place whom they despise.

She Told a Guy She Worked at an Abortion Clinic. On Their Next Date, He Raped Her.