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“It is a radical upheaval, a national reckoning with massive social and political implications,” says Traister. “Across classes, and races, we are seeing a wholesale revision of what female life might entail. We are living through the invention of independent female adulthood as a norm, not an aberration, and the creation of an entirely new population: adult women who are no longer economically, socially, sexually, or reproductively dependent on or defined by the men they marry.”
So, we might summarize one trend as: “Independent Single Ladies on the Rise.”
For more than forty years I have specialized in working with men. I’m seeing a disturbing trend of increased male irritability and anger, along with a rise in the depression and suicide rates for males. In doing research for my book, The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression, I developed a quiz that has now been taken by more than 60,000 men throughout the world.
I’ve seen a disturbing trend where more and more men feel disconnected, disrespected, and angry. We see the anger acted out in violent attacks such as the ones we saw in Orlando and also in the rhetoric of presidential candidate Donald Trump. We also see it in a rise of male loneliness.
Unfortunately, this is a common experience for an increasing number of men. Joiner concludes that “Men’s main problem is not self-loathing, stupidity, greed, or any of the legions of other things they’re accused of. The problem, instead, is loneliness; as they age, they gradually lose contact with friends and family, and here’s the important part, they don’t replenish them.”
I see these two trends interweaving and reinforcing each other. As women become more independent and self-sufficient they are not willing to settle for a marriage where their needs are not met. They would rather get their social and emotional support from work associates, friends, and family.
As men feel unable to meet women’s needs for economic, emotional, and social support, they feel more inadequate and distance themselves even more, often escaping into pornography, increased alcohol consumption, and compulsive work habits. I hear from many women that “there just aren’t any good men out there to marry” and they become even more self-sufficient and self-contained. I hear from men who say, “Women just don’t want intimacy anymore.” They become more fearful of reaching out to women and risking rejection.”

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/women-saying-no-marriage-men-becoming-angry-depressed-lonely-wcz/

When are males going to collectively decide to change?

Go to therapy, make better friends, stop being rapist, develop some interests other than porn, develop better social skills, become more empathetic, gain knowledge on actually giving a woman an orgasm, repair their relationships with their family, read a book on social skills, take a class on social skills, stop having sexual Tourette’s, develop a life that a woman would actually say yes to if you propose.

I can’t be sympathetic because most males don’t move an inch to change their lives for the better. They just get madder that no woman wants them.

^^^^^^ It’s easier for them to blame us then to take any real responsibility for their actions

let the church say amen.

Men need to change, yes, but we as a society also need to change the way boys are raised and socialized and the messages they’re sent in media. We’ve started telling girls some of the things that only boys used to be told – that they should aspire to career success, be confident in and cultivate their talents – but we don’t teach boys how to take responsibility for their own social and emotional well-being. I suspect the reason for this is much the same as the reason it’s now considered normal for women to wear trousers but not for men to wear skirts: that taking on “masculine” features is still considered an upgrade for a woman, while taking on “feminine” features is considered a humiliating downgrade for a man. We still, as a society, have trouble acknowledging the immense value of “feminine” skills and characteristics. When these things are touted by conservatives, it’s clearly a disingenuous effort to relegate women to that social role; the low value they really place on it is clear from the fact that they don’t think it’s worthy of men.